How to Train Your Abused Dog to Trust
How to Train Your Abused Dog to Trust
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Introduction

So you've decided that your house is missing the warmth of a canine companion. In efforts to do the right thing, you make a trip to your local shelter to see what pooches are in need of a home. As you're looking, you see the saddest pair of eyes you've ever seen staring out back at you. You know in your heart that you've found your fur-baby, but you still get a little twinge of anxiety when the worker tells you that this dog has been abused.

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Defining Tasks

It takes a huge heart and plenty of patience to adopt a pet who is a victim of abuse. Those who have been able to take on the task can vouch that there are few things more rewarding than bringing the joy back into a dog's life. So rest assured, your efforts will not be in vain to gain the trust of one of these shattered souls.

Because every dog and every situation is different, the time it takes to win over an abused pup is really all over the map. Some victims bounce back surprisingly fast, while others never fully recover from their past experiences.

Unfortunately, abuse happens to dogs of all ages. Older pooches have a lower chance of being adopted, so more rehabilitation happens in young to middle-aged dogs. That being said, young dogs generally have a longer road to recovery than canines who were abused at older ages.

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Getting Started

Before you bring one of these babies home, you're going to want to be prepared. Your success will depend on how comfortable you can make your new family member, so keep that in mind. It's good to come into this relationship with the following:

  • A Calm Temperament: Dogs feed off of their owner's emotions. If you are uptight and nervous, any interaction with an abused fur-buddy will be tense. Calm yourself down before picking up your new pooch, and practice speaking in a low, quiet tone of voice.
  • Some Alone Time: Many, if not most, abused dogs will only become more distressed if there are multiple people or animals in their new home. Allow your new family member to have a quiet space where you both can slowly get to know one another.

Lots and Lots of Treats: Especially during those first few interactions, you're going to want to reward any contact the dog is willing to initiate.

Top-Quality Food: A lot of abused dogs have never been fed an appropriate diet. Many are even malnourished or super deficient in certain nutrients. Invest in a high-quality dog food or look into feeding your furry friend a balanced raw diet to combat any damage that has been done by a poor diet.

Realistic Expectations and Tons of Patience: It's best not to get your hopes up when working with an abused animal. Recovery looks different on every dog. But also do your best not to get discouraged either. As long as you are providing the pup its best possible life, your efforts are worth it.

Below are a few different methods you can use to build trust with an abused dog. You may need to try a few before you find what works the best in your situation.

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The Beat Their Fears Method

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Identify stressors

Pinpoint what bothers your new pooch the most. Do your best not to induce extra stress figuring this out; it's best to identify their fears through observation.

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Expose your dog

Come up with a way to expose the dog to their fear in a totally controlled manner. Allow the pup to face their fear in a small way. Do not force them into the situation or push them toward what is scaring them.

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Encourage

Give the dog treats and or praise throughout the experience so that they associate good things with what once scared them.

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Repeat

Repeat the exercise on a regular basis and consider increasing the amount of time that the dog is exposed to their fear if they begin to show improvement.

The Praise With Clicks Method

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Study up

Learn the ins and outs of clicker training. Read articles and talk to experts to get comfortable with the technique.

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Get equipped

Get yourself a “clicker” and some treats.

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Observe and click

Watch your pet closely, and hit the clicker as soon as you witness a good behavior.

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Reward!

Follow the click with a treat so that the dog knows that the clicker means “good job!”

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Repeat

Keep doing this! Clicker training is great for abuse victims because it helps build good behaviors without using harsh corrections.

The Spend Time Alone Together Method

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Choose a spot

Pick a quiet room away from any commotion in your home. De-clutter the space, but leave a dog blanket or bed, a dish of water, and a chair so that you have somewhere to sit.

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Get together

Bring your new addition into the room with you and close the door. Sit in the seat and occupy yourself while the dog does his own thing.

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Reward!

Every now and then, place a dog treat near where the pooch is playing.

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Repeat

Repeat this daily until the dog is comfortable approaching you.

Written by Amy Caldwell

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Published: 09/20/2017, edited: 01/08/2021

Training Questions and Answers

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Cookie
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Chihuahua
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Eight Years
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Took Cookie from a home where she was mistreated. Boys played very aggressively with her...pulled her tail, punished her by hitting/yelling at her or gagging her for peeing in the house! I have a 4 yr. Old rat terrier (luna) very calm dog. Cookie tries to bite her when I carry her, or tries to eat her food. Barks at her at times and/or pushes her . I've seen her "nibble" at her neck. They have initiated play but cookie seems to get aggressive by barking at luna. Luna tolerates her and at times runs instead of fighting back.

March 14, 2023

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Caitlin Crittenden - Dog Trainer

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Hello, First, if food is being left out for free feeding, now that you're a two dog home, I recommend transitioning to timed meals, and if the food hasn't been eating in 45 minutes, remove what's left and add that amount to the next meal for that day. When first making the transition, you can feed lunch in addition to breakfast and dinner if pup doesn't eat at breakfast until pup adjusts to two meals a day. Feed the dogs in separate rooms or closed crates, to avoid not only the food stealing but also the stress and competing that can accompany food stealing and food guarding - which can evolve into full blown resource guarding overtime. At the same time, I recommend working on some obedience commands to help Cookie learn to respect Luna's personal space and relax more. Out command: https://www.petful.com/behaviors/how-to-teach-a-dog-the-out-command/ Leave It method: https://wagwalking.com/training/train-a-shih-tzu-puppy-to-not-bite If Cookie is initiating the conflicts with Luna, I recommend clipping Cookie to yourself with a hands free leash when the dogs are in the same room, and confining them apart when you aren't home to give Luna a break from Cookie potentially bullying until things improve. The leash can help Cookie bond with you while also learning the rules of interacting with your other dog and the home by being close to you where you can give them feedback. Since Cookie was mistreated in their previous home, its also likely she wasn't taught commands and boundaries and socialized very well, so she may need trust and respect and boundaries taught in a kind and calm way by you now. Keep treats out of sight but handy - like in a pocket in a baggie, and when you catch Cookie or Luna being calm, relaxed or tolerant of one another's presence give them a treat. Try not to let the other dog see you rewarding them though so that they don’t run over and overwhelm each other and start a food fight. Best of luck training, Caitlin Crittenden

March 15, 2023

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Holli
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Rhodesian Ridgeback
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Five Years
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We've had a dog 6 weeks now, abandoned and in kennels for 5 months due to some surgery. Very affectionate with me but more wary of my partner. With either of us she can cower and cry, we've not worked out all her triggers yet but reaching over her head, moving suddenly in a small space are 2. The other incidents seem random to us up to now. She recovers being scared by something I do much quicker. My partner gives her treats for approaching him. Between times she's relaxed in the house but much happier if I'm there so we try to walk her together so she's at ease. Are we doing the right things

Jan. 22, 2023

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Hello, It sounds like you are doing a good job learning what she needs and working to build trust. With a dog with such a lack of early socialization it can be a slow process. Here are some additional things you can also practice. Sit down - so that pup is calmer, and have you or your husband toss pup her dinner kibble one piece at a time without making eye contact. Do this as often as you can. Keep enough distance between them for pup to relax enough to eat the food. As she gets more comfortable, decrease the distance by tossing the treats slightly less far, so that pup has to come closer to your husband to eat them. Watch pup's body language to determine when pup is relaxed enough to decrease the distance - don't rush this process but do practice often at the current distance. When pup will come within a foot of your chair to eat the food and is relaxed at that distance, start to practice this in other positions like standing up, sitting on the ground or laying down. When you change positions, you will likely need to go back to tossing the treats further away again because the new position will probably make her more nervous. Once pup will go up to your chair when you are sitting or in one of the other positions and is even more comfortable with you both in general, put a harness or martingale type collar that pup cannot get out of on pup. Spend time slowly introducing the harness using the method from the video linked below once pup is comfortable enough to get closer to you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tn5b8u1YS_g&feature=emb_title Choose a secure, front-clip type harness. Ideally, practice this in a fenced in area since pup may be a flight risk. Clip her leash on the harness and go on a walk with pup and your husband. If pup is nervous, have your husband stay several feet away while walking in the same direction at first - with you (or whoever pup is most comfortable with at that point, holding the leash). As pup relaxes during the walk, gradually have your husband get closer until you can hand the leash off to your husband and let him walk pup alone - without you. This might take several sessions before you can do that without pup stopping or tensing up when your husband gets close. Don't rush this - be aware of pup's body language and any tensing up. Definitely practice in a fenced area if available, even though that will mean walking back and forth a lot. Once pup will walk with your husband and get close to your husband and you to eat, practice hand-feeding her the dog food and walk her regularly to develop trust. When you get that far, also teach her commands and tricks using positive reinforcement to further build trust. Check out the article linked below as well, and be aware of pup's body language and not putting her into situations that might lead to a fear bite. https://www.petful.com/behaviors/how-to-socialize-a-shy-dog/ It can be helpful to work with a trainer who is very experienced with counter conditioning occasionally, just to have someone monitor how pup is responding to the training and what to work on next. Kikopup on youtube is also a good resource for counter conditioning. I don't recommend all of her training advice in all areas, but her advice on counter conditioning to help with shyness can be very helpful, and she has some great videos to watch someone do it. Best of luck training, Caitlin Crittenden

Jan. 23, 2023

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Sophie
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Cairn Terrier
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Six Years
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very frighten and hides or is in the down position acting like I am going to hurt her when I pick up a ball to throw or roll one or try to play with her with a toy. She is very friendly loves people and other dogs but the minute I try to play with a toy she is in the down position looking very frighten. She was found on the streets very matted and needed to be shaved down. We never yell at her and if she does have an accident in the house we just clean it up . She has alot of energy so I am also thinking of daycare for her a couple of times a week, but playing with other dogs is not her i

Aug. 29, 2022

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Hello, It looks like the end of your message got cut off "playing with other dogs is not her i..." I am guessing you were going to say it's not her idea of fun. If that's the case, I would be hesitant to choose just any daycare. I would see if there is one where they will either group the dogs based on personalities - grouping her with more submissive, gentler dogs, or one where activities are more like hikes and swimming, and less free roaming with other dogs in a confined small fence. If you don't have those options, I would see about a dog walker a few times a week to start with at first. As far as the toys, I would avoid throwing or rolling any toys toward her at first. Being on the street, it's possible that things were thrown at her to get her to leave the area, or she just doesn't understand and things you are mad. Instead, look for something like a flirt pole that can be dragged along the ground like a squirrel to chase, stuff kongs with dog food and treats like liver paste (sodium free) to make things shaped like balls enticing and fun again, and work on tug games with stuffless animals dragged along the ground, to engage chase and prey drive. Once pup likes those chase and chew type games, then you can use those existing toys to toss the "animal or kong" a little ways away, like it's escaping from pup, for them to chase after. Even then, don't throw it directly at pup, toss to the side, to make it look like it's running away from pup, to get them interested. A dog unfamiliar with fetching balls, is more likely to go after something they think is running away from them than moving toward them, in general, so make it look like toys are trying to get away while introducing. Best of luck training, Caitlin Crittenden

Aug. 29, 2022


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