How to Train Your Older Dog to Accept a Puppy
How to Train Your Older Dog to Accept a Puppy
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Time icon1-8 Weeks
Behavior training category iconBehavior
Introduction

You're super-excited about the arrival of a new pup.  Your much-loved older dog is getting a bit long in the tooth, and you've high hopes that introducing some new blood is going to help him feel young again. After all, what's not to love about a puppy? (OK, yes, you know it's hard work with all those puddles and accidents, but the cute face and cuddle factor more than make-up for it.) 

Sadly, things don't go according to plan. The puppy knows his job just fine and wants to play in that floppy eared, pounce-and-box-his-face way that puppies do. The trouble is the established dog is none too thrilled about it. In fact, he's downright grumpy about the new addition. So far he growled and grumped, shown his teeth and snarled, but not actually gone as far as snapping at the new bundle of fun. Oh dear, this isn't how you planned things at all. 

You're fairly confident the older dog wouldn't actually hurt the newbie, but still, this tension wasn't part of the plan for one big happy fur family. In fact, you're wondering if you made the right decision since all that's been achieved is making the older dog miserable. 

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Defining Tasks

An older dog has a lot invested in his home. It's his core territory and he has things pretty much the ways he likes. He knows when meals happen, when it's time for walks, and that everyone adores him. Then along comes a new puppy and everything's turned on its head. 

Now the older dog is no longer the center of attention. To make matters worse he's expected to put up with having his face boxed and tail pulled. Then there's how the upstart steals his food, bed, and favorite toys. 

Helping an older dog accept a puppy has a lot to do with getting into the mind of the established dog, and understanding how he sees the world. This enables you to minimize the disruption to his life so that he feels less threatened and can open his heart to the youngster. This involves making sure each dog has his own resources (food, water, bed, and toys) and you acknowledge the older dog ahead of the puppy. 

In addition, you can use reward-based training methods such as clicker training, to reward the older dog when he uses an appropriate coping strategy, such as getting up and moving away from the annoying pup, rather than growling. 

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Getting Started

You will need:

  • Separate resources for each dog, so each has their own bed, crate, food and water bowls, and toys
  • Treats
  • A treat bag you can wear on your belt so as to have access to treats at all times
  • A crate for the puppy
  • A pen or pet gates to corral the pup and provide the oldie with peace
  • A clicker
  • A squeaky toy

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The Time with the Puppy Method

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Understand the idea

It is human nature to coo over a puppy, which means the older dog fades into the background. However, from the word go this upsets the balance of their future canine relationship. Dogs are happiest when there is a clear pecking order and each understands their place. As the adult dog, this automatically makes the senior top of the heap and he should be treated accordingly. If the oldie is consistently given attention first and the puppy controlled, then they will get along just swimmingly.

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When the two dogs are in the room, ignore the puppy

Both dogs are in the kitchen. You walk in. Be sure to greet the older dog first, giving him a fuss and only greeting the puppy when the senior has been acknowledged. This sends out a strong message to the oldie that he is top dog and the puppy is an underling.

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Give the puppy his own toys

In the canine world, it is the height of bad manners to take someone else's toys. It will help the doggie duo to get along if each has their own things. Present the puppy with his own toys to play with and praise him when he chooses these. If the puppy picks up his senior's toys, then say a short firm "No", distract him and remove the toy, returning it to the senior.

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Teach the puppy self-control

You wouldn't allow the kids to rampage unchecked through the house, so don't allow the puppy to do the same. If the puppy gets over excited, go for 'time out'. Stop the game and wait for him to calm down before continuing. This teaches him that the fun stops if he's over exuberant and over time, teaches him self-control that the older dog will benefit from.

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Crate train the puppy

Crate training not only helps with potty training, but can save the sanity of the older dog. When the puppy has his own place to go, this leaves the older dog with the run of the house, which does his morale (and therefore tolerance of the pup) the world of good.

The Time with the Elder Method

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Understand the idea

The older dog has been your companion for a long time. It's therefore perfectly natural for him to feel unsettled, jealous, or threatened by the presence of a puppy who gets all the attention. Do the older dog a favor by understanding things from his perspective and helping to maintain a sense of order and place in his world.

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Give the older dog attention first

Yes, the puppy is intoxicatingly cute, but no that's not a good enough reason to overlook the older dog. It's essential the older dog has his place in the fur-family preserved, which means putting his needs first and have the puppy fit in second. In practical terms, this means greeting the older dog first, putting his food bowl down first, letting him through the door ahead of the puppy, and putting his leash on ahead of the youngster.

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Don't punish the older dog for growling

Puppies have very bad manners. They'll jump all over another dog without being invited and are liable to steal prized toys or food. That precious puppy has to learn boundaries and how to behave, and the older dog is the one to teach him. But more than this, it's wrong to punish the older dog for growling, as his behavior is completely natural. To inhibit his way of correcting the pup will lead to confusion and inner conflict, which could be disastrous in the long term.

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Keep the older dog in routine

Your senior dog's world has been turned upside down by the arrival of a puppy. Dogs find change hard to deal with, so don't make the problem worse by disrupting his normal schedule, which means he has no anchor points in his day anymore. Instead, try to keep mealtimes and walks at the regular time in order to promote feelings of security and reduce resentment over the pup's arrival.

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Give the older dog "me time"

Let's face it, everyone needs a break from the kids from time to time, and dogs are no different with puppies. Be sure to spend time just you and the senior, so that you have time to refresh your bond. Also, give the older dog a safe space where he's allowed but the upstart isn't, so that he can escape if it all gets too much. This will refresh the senior's stores of patience and help him better accept the newbie.

The Clicker Training Method

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Understand the idea

A clicker is a small plastic device that makes a clicking noise when you press the trigger. The click is a great way to 'mark' a behavior that you want to encourage. This is called capturing a behavior, and you can think of it in the same way as pressing the camera shutter captures the picture. The payback for the older dog is he gets a reward each time he hears the clicker, and so offers behaviors that are most likely to make this happen.

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Teach the dog to know a click means a reward

First, the dog needs to link hearing a click with getting a reward. This is easy to do and most dogs learn the link after as little as one or two sessions. Offer a treat. As the dog eats it, click the clicker. Scatter several treats on the floor. As the dog eats each one, click the clicker. Having got the dog's attention, throw one treat at a time and click as the dog eats each one. Then try clicking before giving the treat. You should find the dog's ears prick forward as he anticipates the reward. Job done!

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Identify a good reaction to the pup

Let's say the older dog alternates between growling at the pup and turning his head away to ignore the youngster. Obviously, ignoring him is preferable. Rather than telling the older dog off for growling (which you should not do for a variety of reasons), instead click him when he turns his head away. Then reward him. This teaches the older dog that the simple act of turning a blind eye is rewarded and he will start to do this to earn a treat.

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Identify positives behaviors

But two dogs living together is also about them getting on well together. Be alert for encouraging signs that the older dog is accepting the younger. This could be the older one wagging his tail when the pup approaches, or engaging in a game of tug. Simply click these actions as a means of showing your approval and help teach the senior the right way to behave.

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One-on-one clicker training

Consider using the clicker to teach the older dog tricks or refresh his basic training. For the dog, this represents wonderful one-on-one attention from the pet parent, which helps him feel secure and builds his confidence.

Written by Pippa Elliott

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Published: 11/22/2017, edited: 01/08/2021

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Emma
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Six Years
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Our older dog has been fine with our puppy since we got her 5 months ago, the puppy is now 7 months old and my older dog seems to have turned on her. We were feeding in separate rooms and the older dog would seek out the puppy and attack while she was finishing her food. We then closed the door so they could both finish but it's like she still has food in her mind and will seek her out to attack even once they're both finished and the bowls have been picked up. From there she has started causing fights over puppy being in her personal space or bringing her toys.

July 4, 2023

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Caitlin Crittenden - Dog Trainer

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Hello, I would actually consult an animal behaviorist and involve a vet for this need. There could be a chemical imbalance or something medical going on contributing to the unusual aggression. You also need someone to watch their body language around one another in general; there might be subtle interactions causing them to compete and intimidate that need to be addressed before a full attack happens, right when that intimidating look or gesture happens. I suspect there is a need for you to work on building trust and respect with both dogs toward you through obedience command practice and some stricter boundaries at home, especially the older dog. Are the females spayed? Some females will display aggression toward each other as well, especially if they are un-spayed, and even more so when in heat. I am not a vet, so if there is something hormonally going on, I would recommend speaking with a behaviorist or vet about this issue. Best of luck training, Caitlin Crittenden

July 10, 2023

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Tucker
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Great Pyrenees
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One Year
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Tucker goes after(growling, pinning to the ground, snapping) our male puppy that is 3 months old whenever he tries to come into the bedroom with me. The puppy was born in our house so he's not new to our home. We have tried rewarding Tucker with food and attention. Nothing seems to be working.

May 21, 2023

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Caitlin Crittenden - Dog Trainer

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Hello, I recommend hiring a professional trainer with aggression and resource guarding experience to help in person. It sounds like Tucker is resource guarding the bedroom - he views it as his own and is disciplining the puppy for getting near something he views as his own. Since the bedroom is yours and not his, this also means that respect for you also needs to be built through obedience command practice and more structure for Tucker, in addition to rewarding Tucker for tolerance to the puppy - but never while he is behaving aggressively, or that can increase the aggression. I recommend hiring professional help for this, and likely desensitizing Tucker to wearing a basket muzzle in case it's needed. Best of luck training, Caitlin Crittenden

May 24, 2023

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Dios
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American bully
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One Year
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We have got a new puppy who's only been with us for about 4 days. The big dog is kind of trying to herd him but the wee one just wants to bark and try nip big one. Should I allow them to play etc or keep them separated? I'm not sure what to do for the best

April 10, 2023

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Hello, I would allow structured interaction with you present and directing it as long as their isn't true aggression, and keep them separate when you can't provide that, using a sturdy exercise pen, crate, or separate rooms. I wouldn't allow unsupervised, unstructured play right now with how they are interacting. Give them more time to learn your rules for the household and how to respect each other's boundaries with your help first. Taking both on structured heeling walks, practicing obedience commands with space between, like Place on opposite ends of the room (avoid feeding treats right next to each other so you don't start a food fight), allowing pup to be in an exercise pen where the other dog can see but not get too with you present, or be in an open area together if both are really good at Leave It, Out, Come, ect... to direct them to give each other space when one starts to pester. Best of luck training, Caitlin Crittenden

April 10, 2023


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