How to Train a Puppy to Respect an Older Dog
How to Train a Puppy to Respect an Older Dog
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Time icon2-4 Weeks
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Introduction

Sammy is a 12-year-old black Lab that is starting to feel her age. She used to go for long runs with her mistress, but now she can’t keep up anymore. She is achy from arthritis and has lost a lot of muscle tone. Sammy's owner decides to bring home a new puppy so she can have company and protection on her morning runs. The new puppy, a German Shepherd named Mack, is adorable and energetic, but from Sammy’s perspective, disruptive, annoying, and disrespectful of personal space! Mack is constantly jumping on Sammy, chewing on her ears, nudging, licking and otherwise being a pain. 

Sammy is not impressed, at first she would get up and walk away, but lately, she has started growling at Mack. Sammy's owner has taken a lot of time to ensure both dogs get lots of attention and Sammy does not seem to be jealous, as much as she seems to be in need of peace and quiet when she wants it. Before this escalates any further Sammy’s owner needs to teach her new puppy to respect her older dog.

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Defining Tasks

Introducing a new puppy to your pet family, when it already contains an older dog, can be a bit of a rocky road, especially if your older dog doesn't have the energy or the inclination to keep up with his little sibling. Sometimes pet owners misconstrue the interaction between their new puppy and their older dog, becoming alarmed when the older dog corrects the new puppy to set boundaries and enforce respect. If you reprimand your older dog because you misinterpret his behavior for being mean or jealous, when he is just teaching your new pup some manners, you can, in fact, create a problem, where the new puppy does not respect boundaries of other pets in the home. 

Often, allowing an older dog to establish respect themselves can resolve the issue, however, if your older dog is unable to exert himself or the new puppy is particularly boisterous, you may need to step in and train your puppy appropriate behavior with your older dog. Often, draining your new pup's energy by providing lots of play and exercise can help to control his behavior around your senior dog. Limiting access between the dogs with crates or barriers can also help establish boundaries. You should not punish your puppy for exhibiting boisterous, playful behavior--this is natural for puppies and punishing natural behaviors will only confuse your new puppy and create anxiety. Instead, limiting, correcting and redirecting playful behavior around your older dog, to establish personal space, boundaries, and respect will be more effective and provide a peaceful, comfortable environment for both your old friend and your new one

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Getting Started

You will need to dedicate time to both your older dog and your new puppy in order to meet each dog's needs--your older dog’s need for quiet and your younger dog's need for activity.  Remember, you need to be the leader and not allow either of your dogs to take over this role, which can create an imbalance in the pack dynamic, resulting in a lack of respect for either of your dogs. This will require time, patience and confidence. Make sure you have lots of toys and treats to redirect your young dog, and establish a quiet retreat for your older dog where he will not be disturbed or harassed by a puppy demanding attention.

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The Reinforce Respect Method

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Reduce energy

Exercise and play with your pup to burn off some energy then bring pup on a leash near your older dog.

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Distract from older dog

When your pup notices your older dog, distract your puppy. Make a funny noise and call your puppy over. Ask him to sit or lie down and ignore the older dog.

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Reinforce respectful behavior

When your puppy sits, give him a treat. If you are using a clicker to mark behaviors, click to mark ignoring the older dog or say “yes”.

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Distract and reward

Bring out a toy and initiate a tug of war game. Remove toy and repeat previous steps. Repeat for about three games of tug of war for three sessions per day in sessions about 5 minutes long.

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Establish ignore behavior

Gradually increase the amount of time your puppy needs to ignore the older dog before getting a reward and play.

The Pack Leader Method

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Teach obedience

You need to be the pack leader to enforce that all pack members treat each other with respect and everyone's needs are met. Work with both your older dog to review obedience commands, and your new puppy to establish obedience commands like 'sit', 'stay', 'come' and 'down'.

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Provide exercise

Exercise your new puppy...lots. Burn off as much of his playful energy as possible with walks and outdoor or indoor play so he does not irritate your older dog with demands for play and roughhousing. When possible, include your older dog in walks to establish a pack mentality for both dogs, with you as leader.

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Engage mind

Work your new puppy's mind. Give him puzzle feeders and interactive toys. Teach him tricks and reward with treats, reduce regular feed accordingly if lots of treats are being used. Give your young dog a job to do that matches his breeding. Is he a scent hound? Teach him to track. A herding dog? Let him herd small animals if possible. A pulling dog? Teach him mushing commands and to pull a drag. Keep your puppy occupied until he is old enough to work, practice agility, or whatever suits his breed and nature.

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Do not allow dominance

Do not allow either dog to overstep their bounds with regard to position in the pack. Older dogs can correct behavior towards themselves but do not need to exert influence over your puppy's other behaviors such as playing with other pets or household activities. Young puppies should not be allowed to continuously pester older dogs with demands for attention and play. Do not sympathize with one dog over another when correcting behavior, treat both equally, correct dominant behavior. An older dog should be able to defend his boundaries but not to “rule” over the younger dog and vice versa.

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Allow play

Do not interfere in play and roughhousing behavior where both dogs are engaged. Sometimes play may look aggressive, with mouthing and growling, but learn to distinguish between annoyance and aggression and playful behavior where both parties are willing participants. Allow dogs to share toys when playing but do not allow toys or bones to be owned by one dog or the other, as the owner/pack leader you should own all toys. However, when one dog has a toy, the other dog should not be allowed to take it. If this occurs, correct the dog who is transgressing and remove the toy.

The Correct Manners Method

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Provide a safe place

Set up an quiet area for your older dog with a blanket or bed in an out of the way place where your older dog is comfortable.

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Supervise

Supervise and intervene to correct behavior if the puppy wants to play and the older dog is trying to avoid him.

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Seperate

If the puppy is demanding attention that the older dog doesn't want to, or is not able to, provide, step in between your older dog and your puppy. Direct your older dog to his quiet place and distract your puppy by taking him to another part of the house and providing him with a toy.

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Enforce seperation

If puppy is still bugging the older dog, separate them. Use a crate to contain your puppy, or set up pet barriers or gates to either contain the puppy, protect the older dog, or block off certain rooms.

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Socialize

Give your puppy access to dogs the same age or slightly older than him. Allow play so that your puppy learns socialization from other dogs with similar energy levels to himself.

Written by Laurie Haggart

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Published: 03/07/2018, edited: 01/08/2021

Training Questions and Answers

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yasha
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rottweiler/labradormix
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my new puppy attacks my 9 year old dog, and chases cat

Oct. 17, 2022

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Caitlin Crittenden - Dog Trainer

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Hello, Are the attacks play fighting and pup being too rough with the dog trying to get them to play without puppy having good self-control or bite inhibition, or are the attacks meant as aggression with harm intended by the puppy? If puppy is truly aggressive toward your older dog, I recommend hiring a professional train with experience with aggression, to come to your home for private training and assess puppy's behavior and the situation in person, so they can train with you carefully, effectively, and see what's triggering the aggression to best know how to address it safely and effectively. If the aggression is puppy's poor attempt at play or finding it fun to antagonize the older dog as a form of entertainment, I would give puppy a lot more boundaries. First, I highly suggest crate training the puppy. If pup isn't already crate trained, know that almost all puppies will cry the first two weeks of crate training - it is new to them and they have to be given the opportunity to learn to self-sooth and self-entertain to prepare them for environments they will have to be in later and prevent dangerous destructive chewing habits that happen without confinement. Use the Surprise method from the article linked below to gradually help pup learn to be calm in the crate and to relax by using rewards for being Quiet if pup isn't already used to the crate. https://wagwalking.com/training/like-a-crate Crate pup at night and when you leave, and you can use an exercise pen with some toys in it also if you purchase the large sturdy kind and anchor it to the studs in the wall in a corner. When you cannot directly supervise the dogs together, puppy should be crated or in the pen. When you are supervising, teach both dogs the Out command (which means leave the area) and make whoever is causing issues leave the area as needed (which will be mostly puppy at this age). Out command: https://www.petful.com/behaviors/how-to-teach-a-dog-the-out-command/ I also recommend teaching Leave It. Leave It method: https://wagwalking.com/training/train-a-shih-tzu-puppy-to-not-bite Decide what your house rules are for both dogs and you be the one to enforce the rules instead of the dogs. No aggression, no pushiness, no stealing toys, no stealing food, no being possessive of people or things, or any other unwanted behavior - if one dog is causing a problem you be the one to enforce the rules so that the dogs are NOT working it out themselves. For example, if pup comes over to your older dog when they are trying to sleep, tell pup Out. If puppy obeys, praise and reward them. If puppy disobeys, stand in front of your older dog, blocking the pup from getting to them, and walk toward pup calmly but firmly until pup leaves the area and stops trying to go back to your older dog. Be vigilant and take the pressure off of your older dog - you want puppy to learn respect for your older dog because you have taught it to pup and not because your older dog has had to resort to aggression or has to hide all the time. If you want pup to be free but don't want to chase after them while you are home, you can also clip them to yourself using a six-foot leash, so that pup has to stay near you and not wander near your other dog. For the cat chasing, check out the videos linked below for teaching calmness around cats. If pup is chasing the cat with intent to kill, and not just for fun, I would also hire a professional trainer to help you address that too. Mild cat issue - teaching impulse control: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWF2Ohik8iM Moderate cat issue - teaching impulse control using corrections and rewards: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9dPIC3Jtn0E Work on impulse control in general with pup, by teaching things that increase impulse control and calmness - such as a long Place command around lots of distractions. Practicing the command until you get to the point where pup will stay on Place while you are working with the kitty in the same room. I recommend also back tying pup while they are on place - safely connecting a long leash attached to pup to something near the Place just in case pup were to try to get off Place before you could intervene. Make sure what the leash is secured to, the leash itself, and pup's collar or harness are secure and not likely to break or slip off. This keeps kitty safe while practicing and reinforces to pup that they can't get off the Place. The leash should be long enough that pup doesn't feel the leash while they are obediently staying on the Place because it has some slack in the leash. You want pup to learn to stay due to obedience and self-control, and the leash just be back up for safety. Place: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=omg5DVPWIWo Out, Leave It, and Down-Stay are also helpful for manners around the cat too. Down-Stay: https://www.thelabradorsite.com/train-your-labrador-to-lie-down-and-stay/ Best of luck training, Caitlin Crittenden

Oct. 17, 2022

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Willow
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My nine year old lab has always been a bit grumpy and not the friendliest of dogs towards other dogs when out despite being socialised from a pup. As a pup she had a few run ins with dogs and was bitten a few times and hasn't forgotten! We lost her pal Daisy (another lab) when Willow was 5, they were inseparable so we got Libby when Willow was 5, they are also inseparable. Libby has just been pregnant and had a singleton Herbie who is now 4 weeks. We have decided to keep the pup but Willow just won't take to him, walks out the room and growls

Sept. 24, 2022

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Hello, Did she nurse the puppy or did you have to bottle feed due to rejection? Was she fine with the puppy up to this point then began growling at him just recently? If she previously nursed fine and did alright with him in the past, she may be deciding to wean him now and is growling at him when he attempts to nurse. Four weeks in when most puppies will start to wean. If that's the case, begin feeding him Gruel - which is a mixture of puppy milk replacement formula and puppy kibble - making a soft cereal pup can practice eating. Monitor him to make sure he is getting enough food and fluids if mom is weaning him too abruptly. Reward her to being calm around him, but I would also take some pressure off of her to care and feed him by helping supplement with gruel if he was previously nursing from her. I would also see if she needs to be taken to the vets if the behavior is new. She could have an infection like mastitis from the weaning process and her teats may be super sore or painful and she is telling him to stay away due to the pain he causes her when he touches her in that area. If that could be the case, take her to your vet's right away. Monitor her health, food and water intake also, to be sure mom is staying healthy during this early pregnancy process. If she is feeling poorly, then that can effect her behavior toward the puppy. Best of luck training, Caitlin Crittenden

Oct. 3, 2022


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