When Buffy, a Cocker Spaniel mix, wants food, she cries. When she wants petting, she cries. When her owner leaves the house, she cries. This results in her owner providing her food, attention, and frequently returning to the home to try to calm Buffy down, which of course only makes the crying worse. After all, it worked, didn't it?
Dogs cry or whine to express their distress at being alone, not getting attention, or to get other needs met.Dogs are social, pack animals-- being alone is not comfortable for them, but our pets need to become comfortable with being alone sometimes, or waiting to have their needs met, such as waiting for play time, or food. The catch is, if you respond to your dog crying by providing attention and closeness, you reinforce the behavior, which creates a vicious cycle.
A dog that cries when you are unable to provide him attention, such as when you are engaged in another activity or when you leave the house, is annoying to you and others. The solution is to teach your dog to be comfortable and confident with being alone, or not being the center of attention, and that crying does not result in getting what he wants. New puppies, especially, are subject to whining and crying behavior, as they have always felt the companionship and attention of their littermates and mother. It is normal for there to be an adjustment period when a new puppy is separated from their birth family and adopted into yours, or for an older dog that has experienced a difference in living situations, such as a move or a rehoming, to start crying due to anxiety associated with the change.
If an older dog that did not previously cry starts crying, you may want to have him checked by your veterinarian to make sure that he is not experiencing a medical condition that is causing him to experience pain or anxiety. If no medical condition or urgent need is present, there are several strategies you can use to teach your dog that being alone or waiting to have their needs met is OK, and that there is no need to become anxious and vocal due to a temporary withdrawal of attention.
Always make sure your dog's physical needs are met before training them not to cry. Has your dog had the opportunity to go to the bathroom, does your dog have water, is he hungry, does he need exercise, did he get enough attention and affection today? If all your dog's needs have been met and crying is just a demand for more attention, or an objection to being alone, then training to teach your dog to wait quietly can be initiated.
You will need a lot of patience and self-discipline, as training your dog to stop crying will necessitate ignoring annoying crying and not responding to it, even with negative attention such as punishment. This will require a lot of willpower on your part, and possibly earplugs! Treats for rewarding a dog for alternative behaviors to crying may be part of your training routine. Crate training to desensitize your dog to being alone, and to provide a comfortable safe place for him to be calm and quiet, is often used to address crying behavior. You may also want to set up a schedule, to make sure your dog gets lots of exercise, play, and attention, and possibly engage other family members, or neighbors, in ensuring your dog has “no excuse” for crying, by ensuring that all his needs are met, albeit on your schedule, not his.
We adopted text this past Saturday and today is our first day at work and he is going on and off with crying. He wasn’t previously an outside dog and his owners let him go because they wanted to travel. We have given him everything he needs but we can’t have him crying when we leave our apartment. What is the best way to teach him not to cry when we leave?
Hello Pamela, When you are home follow the Surprise method from the article linked below: https://wagwalking.com/training/like-a-crate Working on the above method is an important first step to help him understand that he is supposed to be quiet while in the crate. Since you cannot wait for him to learn to stay quiet because of neighbors, in addition to working on the Surprise method, teach him the Quiet command using the Quiet method: Quiet method: https://wagwalking.com/training/train-a-shih-tzu-puppy-to-not-bark After he understands the Quiet command, purchase a Pet Convincer - which is a small canister of unscented air. When he barks tell him Quiet. If he gets Quiet and stays quiet for at least five minutes, return to him and sprinkle treats into the crate, then leave again. If he starts barking again right away or doesn't get quiet, tell him "Ah Ah" or "No" calmly, then spray a small puff of unscented air from the Pet Convincer at his side through the crate (NOT at his face), then leave again. If he stays quiet for at least five minutes, return and reward him. Repeat correcting with the Pet Convincer when he barks and rewarding with treats calmly when he stays quiet. As he improves, space your treat rewards out further so that he has to stay quiet for longer and longer in the crate before you reward him. Be sure to give him a food stuffed hollow chew toy, such as a Kong stuffed with his own dog food that has been soaked in water and mixed with a little peanut butter or liver paste - to help him learn to sooth himself and entertain himself quietly while in the crate - this also rewards him for chewing quietly. Best of luck training, Caitlin Crittenden
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Folly cannot stand being on her own she whines and cries every time my husband or I leave her sight. We have her currently setup with a crate (door open) attached to an exercise pen. Inside her pen is a water bowl and toys. Interactive toys such as Kong’s do not hold her attention and she doesn’t self play.
She loves being close to us at all times. We have tried rewarding quiet behavior and then leaving the room for random periods of time anywhere from 30 seconds to 10 minutes. But it seems everyday we start over.
Hello! So believe it or not, she might have "too much" space. To us, when we are a little anxious, having space seems ideal. But to dogs, it makes them even more insecure. The crate open, attached to the play pen is wonderful for when she is a little older. I would try leaving her in the crate, with the door closed and see how it goes. Also, if you know she doesn't need to go to the bathroom. It is ok to ignore her cries for about 20 minutes. As she gets older, this behavior will start to disappear. She is still very young and figuring out what is normal in her new world. Give her a little time to become more secure with herself, while still providing everything you are doing so far.
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I am trying to get her used to the crate for now during the day.. but what do I do for night time when she is not quite ready to stay in there all night?
Hello Tara, For the daytime, I suggest following the Surprise method from the article linked below, and practicing that during the day to help her adjust sooner. I also recommend giving her a dog food stuffed chew toy in there to keep her more preoccupied. Surprise method: https://wagwalking.com/training/like-a-crate At night, you will need to ignore the crying in the crate - since it's nighttime most dogs will eventually go to sleep, opposed to the daytime, but it will involve a decent amount of crying at first. When pup wakes after it has been at least 5 hours since their last potty trip, take them outside to go potty on the leash, keep the trip boring, then return to the crate and ignore any crying at that point until they fall back to sleep. Best of luck training, Caitlin Crittenden
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