How to Train Your Dog to Be Patient
Introduction
Dogs can be some of the most impatient beings on the planet. When you ask if they want to go for a ride, they are practically in the car before you can even turn to find your car keys. If you have food that you are preparing for yourself or for them, they are literally drooling before you can even get the package open.
If your dog is not patient, he could become obnoxious and dangerous. Dogs who are impatient tend to jump all over their owners because they can't wait and are so excited they don't know how to control it. Some dogs aren't patient enough to wait for food and will bite the hand that feeds them. Teach your dog to be patient and to wait so he not only has good manners, but is also a little calmer until he gets what he wants.
Defining Tasks
Training your dog to be patient can be as simple as training your dog to wait. There will be different scenarios when you do need your dog to be patient, whether it's opening the door for him to go outside without ruining the screen, the curtains, or your pants or waiting for food without jumping on you or the counter or stealing food from your hand before you're ready to give it to him. Teach your dog to be patient with the things he's most excited about. This could include activities, tasks, and food. Do not give in to your dog and allow him to have the things or activities he wants until he is patient. Giving in will only teach him that behaving obnoxiously will get him what he wants.
Getting Started
To train patience with your dog, you will need lots of tasty treats and actions or activities your dog will be eager to do. If your dog is one to jump all over the screen door before you can get to the door to open it, then that is the place where you need to start your training. If your dog often goes for car rides and is so excited that he's jumping all over the car, that's a great place to train as well. Start training your dog to be patient when it comes to food and then work on activities.
The 'Watch Me' Method
The 'Wait' Method
The Bowl of Treats Method
Success Stories and Training Questions
Training Questions and Answers
Milo
Hello,
It's been about a month now since I got my dog, Milo! He is very sweet and cute, I love him, but he is a difficult dog to deal with it at times. I was given him by another owner who lives in my apartment building(The owner had to give him away because he didn't have time to give Milo the attention he needs). Milo has many things I need to work with: 1. He has separation anxiety, especially with me, he barks whenever I leave. It's not severe though, he doesn't chew things or hurt himself(Thank God). He just freaks out when I leave. I have given my toys to to distract him, but it doesn't work. 2. He is very impatient. He barks at anybody whp tries to take him out. Putting the leassh on him is hard and annoying. And he has a very loud bark, that can echo in the hallways. It's quite annoying. And when he barks, it not an exciting bark, like he is happy to go out, it is more of like he is demanding if that makes sense. I'm trying to train him to not bark, and to be quiet when I say "quiet". But he whines also. Could this be a medical thing? We take him downstairs when leaving the building and sometimes he pees as we go down the stairs like he can't hold himself, and I figure that's why he barks at me because he has to go to the bathroom. Could that be it? 3. He is not potty train. The previous owner said he doesn't pee or poop inside, but he does with us. He did it the first night we got him, and I thought maybe it's his first night, and he is nervous, but it seems to be a reoccurring thing. He has specific places where he likes to pee and poop. And we had put pee pads where he does, but I want him to know where to go, and to not go to the other places. I have trained him to go to the pee pad, he is familiar with it, but he doesn't pee or poop on it voluntarily unless it's where he usually goes. How do I establish this is where he goes and that's it? 4. Now, this is the biggest problem I have with him. He barks at literally every dog that walks past us when we walk. It is annoying and embrassing. To be clear, I am a dog walker, so I have walked well-behaved dogs before and aggressive dogs. Milo is not well-behaved or aggressive. He is a sweet dog, and I can tell he is NOT an aggressive dog, he just barks at them as if he is trying to say "Hey!", and he lunges, and goes absolutely insane when he doesn't get his way, he hates the leash and his collar because it restricts him to get to the dog he wants to greet. It makes him even crazier. I can tell he is not aggressive because he doesn't growl or show his teeth, i have walked aggressive dogs, he is not like that at all. He just gets excited and he wants to say Hi. I'm trying my best to stay patient and to try to train him, but he is a very distracting dog. Everything interests him and he rather pays attention to his surroundings than me. I have trained him to repsond when I call his name, as we go on the walk. He is getting better at that. At first, he wouldn't even pay attention to me, now he does. But it's not perfect. And Im going to keep trying. But, when there is another dog, he does not pay attention at all, he forgets Im there entirely, like he is in another world. I want him to listen to me at any time, and to not bark at other dogs, or pull when I walk him. I almost want him to know I am the leader, not him. I have tried a gentle leadder for the pulling, but he doesn't like it, and he makes him even crazier when he sees a dog, but with a gentle leader, it is effective. Also, I live by a highway, cars are always going by, so it's very loud, and I also live by a very popular park where people bring their dogs all the time, so it's even harder to train him becasuse everywhere I go, it's going to be distracting, and I live in a city. I want him to socailize with other dogs, but I need to him to listen and behave well with me first, becasue I want to bring him to the dog park and let him enjoy himself, but I don't want to do that if he can't listen to me or he forgets Im there. For extra information, he is not neutered, could this factor into this?
So, there are many things I need to work on with him, but I want to know how, and what do I work on first. Do I correct everything at once, or do I pick one thing, when I feel like he is good with it, I move on to the next thing to corrct? Im tying to be patient with him and Im trying to do my best, but I don't have a lot of money to get a trainer, and I know it doesn't help that my family is not even helping with training him, Im doing this by myself which is causing me stress.
Please help me anyway you can, I will greatly appreciate it!
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Hello Jala, It sounds like Milo was never socialized, lacks respect for you, and simply hasn't ever learned impulse control or obedience, so the training should be geared toward improving those three things. First, check out the video linked below on separation anxiety. The trainer can be a bit abrupt while teaching but he is very experienced with highly aggressive, anxious, and reactive dogs. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5GqzeLzysk Second, how often are you taking him potty? If he has to hold it for longer than 6-7 hours at a time the issue could be he really needs to go potty. Since he does not seem to mind going potty inside, it is more likely that he is simply being demanding and rude barking, and building his respect for you should help. Continue working on Quiet but also work on building his respect and impulse control by teaching the commands from the videos and articles linked below: Place: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=omg5DVPWIWo Crate manners: https://thegooddog.net/training-videos/free-how-to-training-videos/learn-to-train-the-good-dog-way-the-crate/ Thresholds: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_-w28C2g68M Heel article - The turns method: https://wagwalking.com/training/train-a-poodle-to-heel Heel Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OTiKVc4ZZWo Third, for the potty training, check out the article linked below and follow the "Crate Training" method. You can also follow the "Tethering" method when you are home. Since he is older you can take him potty every 3-4 hours when you are home and crate training, and every 3 hours if he is tethered to you. Once he goes potty outside, you can give him 2 hours of supervised freedom out of the crate, then put him back in the crate until it is time for his next potty trip so that he does not have another accident while his bladder is filling up again. Working on the separation anxiety should hopefully make putting him into the crate more possible. When you leave him in the crate for longer periods of time, give him a food stuffed chew toy to help with boredom. At first he probably won't chew it, but once the separation anxiety improves through training he will probably become interested in it as he relaxes more. Crate Training method: https://wagwalking.com/training/train-a-german-shepherd-puppy-to-poop-outside Fourth, for the barking, first continue teaching Quiet so that he will understand what the command means when you use it. When you first see a dog, tell him Quiet before he barks ideally. Purchase a high quality stimulation bark collar (you can try vibration first if you purchase a collar that has both settings). Have him wear the collar on walks. It he disobeys your Quiet command (something he should understand by then), then the collar will automatically correct him. When he stops barking and is quiet because the collar surprised him, praise and reward him with treats or a favorite toy for being quiet, acting confident and upbeat when you do so. Look for a bark collar that will let you adjust the stimulation level also. Many collars will adjust the level automatically and some will also let you set the level. This feature lets you figure out which level your dog responds to and use the lowest level that he responds to. Once he improves, you may even be able to turn the level down one. The first time that he receives a correction he may yelp or whine - this is usually just from surprise and protesting the collar mostly. If it continues evaluate if the collar stimulation level is too high and should be lowered. You can start on the lowest level and increase the level gradually until you find the correct level during based on his response. Work on heeling and generally teaching commands that increase his focus on you while outside. Reward him calmly when he is doing well being calm, quiet, or focusing on you. You want to still associate the presence of other dogs with something good by rewarding him for being calm around them, that way he will be able to understand that it is his barking that earns a correction, but when he is calm around dogs good things happen. Best of luck training, Caitlin Crittenden
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Hello,
Nori is Very smart, and extremely high energy, but she has learned lots of skills. The one things she is not doing good at is containing her excitement with the dog walker. When she comes into the house she loses her mind with excitement jumping and bouncing, crying and barking.( she only does this with the dog walker no one else) Once she if finally leashed and gets into the car with the other dogs she is still crying and excited getting all the other dogs dialled up. Once at the park the walker keeps them on the leash until they calm down, she is the one that cant seem to calm down to get let off leash. She pulls and yanks and chokes herself trying to get to the dogs. We honestly dont know what to do.
Additionally she LOVES all dogs she cant control how much she loves them. She has never really been put in her place by a more dominant dog and she doesnt understand not all dogs want to play rough. She can play too rough, not that she is trying too and she has never hurt a dog but she just doesnt know the boundaries. Especially with small dogs she just doesnt understand how to interact.
Any tips for both would be appreciated because aside from that she is a fantastic girl who listens super well.
thanks
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Hello, Her excitement and aroused state right at the beginning of the walk is one of the biggest issues - once in that highly aroused state it's going to be extremely difficult for her to calm back down in that environment with the other dogs and the walker. The dog walker can't really be expected to train pup while walking all the other dogs during the visit, but pup does need to practice with her. I suggest paying the walker to come additional times when you are home to practice when there aren't all the other variables - like lots of dogs. If the walker has her own dog, have her bring just one other dog. Teach pup Place or the crate manners exercise below - depending on whether pup tends to be free or crated when the walker arrives. Practice until pup can do it reliably when people ring the door bell, knock, and are welcomed in. When pup can do it when others enter, practice the walker entering over and over again and pup staying in the crate with the door open or on Place without getting off. Practice this until pup's overall energy is calm, in addition to pup staying on place - the repetitions should make this exercise boring after a while and you want the walker's appearance to be boring to bring pup's energy down. You will need the walker to come extra times for a bit - not just one time. Place: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=omg5DVPWIWo Crate manners: https://thegooddog.net/training-videos/free-how-to-training-videos/learn-to-train-the-good-dog-way-the-crate/ Once pup is calm with the walker appearing, work with the walker and her dog on your pup waiting at the door threshold and not rushing out - use a long leash to secure pup to something sturdy inside so that pup feels off-leash but is still safe while practicing at the door. Have the walker, and then the walker and her dog also practice walking through the door while your pup waits for permission to come through - again, practice until pup is not only staying there but calm about it - you want this exercise to become boring and pup's energy to go back down. Thresholds: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_-w28C2g68M Finally, have the walker practice heeling with pup. Start with just your dog and her, then add the second dog when pup is calm. This should be a really structured, focused heel to help pup's energy come down, build respect for your walker, and keep pup's arousal level lower. Heel article - The turns method: https://wagwalking.com/training/train-a-poodle-to-heel Heel Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OTiKVc4ZZWo When she gets ready to let the dog's off leash, have her practice the reel in method for Come with pup to build an expectation for pup to come while off-leash with her also. Come - Reel In method: https://wagwalking.com/training/train-a-whippet-to-recall All of these exercises are conditioning pup to be calmer in those situations, increase pup's respect for your walker - which is lacking right now, and give more boundaries around your walker - like the boundaries Nori has with you already from all the obedience you have worked with her on. Best of luck training, Caitlin Crittenden
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