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Can Dogs Think You Want to Play?



5 min read


Can Dogs Think You Want to Play?


Is there anything more adorable than a dog that brings you a favorite toy? Some dogs take things a step further, and drop a ball at your feet and then bark to draw your attention to it. Then, you pick the ball up and toss it for the dog to fetch, which they do, tail wagging, and bring it back to play all over again. But who's playing with who? 

Is the game purely for the dog's benefit or could the dog think it's you that wants to play and they facilitate the game? 

The latter isn't quite as backward as it sounds. If in the dog's experience you throw a ball dropped at your feet, then it may appear to the dog that you want to play. They then help you out by chasing after the ball to bring it back again. Indeed, life with a dog can be a tale of unintended consequences when we accidentally reward behaviors and unwittingly train the dog to repeat this behavior. The dog thinks we like to play and we reward this action by giving them attention. 


Signs a Dog Thinks You Want to Play

Dogs are good at reading human body language and reply with their own body language signals. Typically, a playful dog will be active and alert, tail high and most probably wagging with enthusiasm. One of the most engaging of dog behavior's when wanting to engage in a game is the play bow. 

Once you learn to recognize a play bow, it is obvious and you'll keep spotting it between dogs playing in the park, as well as your own dog inviting you to throw the ball. 

The dog adopts a posture with the rear end in the air and their front quarters pressed to the ground. So, their chest rests on the floor but their rump is held high. The tail is almost certainly held stiffly erect or waves madly with excitement. Often, the dog pants and will make mock lunging movements at the same time as making soft, playful yips or woofs. 

But the fun doesn't stop there because the dog then makes head weaving movements as if about to dart to the left or the right. This elaborate play bow behavior is learned in puppyhood and continues through into adult life. It's a safe way for one dog to signal to another dog that they mean them no harm and a game of chase would be fun. It's a sort of doggy code for saying all they want to do is play, so how about it? 

Body Language

Look out for the happy, bouncy body language of a dog that wants to play. It's a delight to behold and is bound to make you smile. Watch for the following:

  • Alert
  • Barking
  • Head Tilting
  • Panting
  • Wag Tail
  • Ears Up
  • Play Bowing

Other Signs

There are other, more specific signs that a dog wishes to play, so keep an eye out for these:

  • Bringing A Toy And Dropping It At Your Feet
  • General Excitement And High Energy Levels
  • Woofing Whilst Making Weaving Movements With The Body
  • Making Eye Contact Whilst Vigorously Wagging The Tail

A History of Reward-Based Training


Reward-based training plugs into how puppies and dogs learn. Even a newborn puppy learns with their first suckle, that seeking out a certain, milky smell is rewarded by a warm drink and a full stomach. 

A puppy learns how to negotiate the world around them by understanding a giant game of consequences. So when puppy does action A and result B happens, they link the two things together. 

Whether or not the dog repeats the action depends on whether the outcome was pleasant or unpleasant. If the puppy prods a wasp with a paw and gets stung, this is unpleasant and the puppy learns wasps make bad playmates. If, however, the puppy prods a ball which then bounces away downhill, the puppy learns that balls are excellent fun. 

Similarly, if the dog brings you a ball and you then throw it, the dog learns that people like to throw balls. It just so happens that dogs love chasing balls, which makes for a pleasant pastime. Who's to know if the dog is playing ball because they enjoy it or because they think you like to throw the ball and are rewarding your actions by playing along! 

The Science of Reward-Based Training


Dogs learn from experience. However, the reaction to their action needs to be immediate for them to learn. For example, if a dog sticks their nose in a bed of nettles and gets stung, they learn to avoid nettles. The sting is immediate, so the dog has no difficulty linking action and reaction together. 

The other side of the coin is when an action is rewarded. An example of this is the dog that learns that when they bark at people passing on the sidewalk, they go away. (It doesn't matter that they were passing by anyway, in the dog's mind, the barking facilitated their leaving). Thus barking is rewarded by the action the dog wants (people leaving the dog's territory). This is how dogs learn to bark and the habit can be difficult to stop as it is self-rewarding. 

Training a Dog to Play


Sadly, not all dogs know how to play. The most heart-wrenching examples are dogs who came from puppy farms and were denied the chance to learn basic social skills as a puppy. These dogs are poorly socialized and often lack an understanding of what certain actions mean. Their default position is to be anxious or fearful of things they don't understand, which can even lead to aggression as a means of self-defense. 

These dogs often don't understand the concept of playing and have to be taught how to do so. This needs to be done using the principles of reward-based training and encouraging the dog when they make small steps forward. 

For some dogs, even approaching a toy without being afraid is a huge thing. So never force a dog to play or overwhelm them with toys or attention, as this will do just that and make them more reserved and fearful, not less. 

Start by introducing a simple toy, such as a ball. Leave it near the dog to see their reaction. Should they sniff it, then praise them enthusiastically. Let them see that the ball is no danger to them. For some dogs, it's necessary to make the ball more attractive so that they pluck up the courage to investigate. Smearing the ball with peanut butter is one way of doing this. Then praise the dog when they sniff and lick the ball. 

The next step is to tap the ball with a finger to show the dog that it can be made to roll along. Speak to the dog in a happy, excited voice to keep their interest. It can help to simply roll the ball along the floor, from one hand to the other, whilst making excited noises. This gives the dog the idea that rolling the ball is fun and nothing to be afraid of. 

If the dog plucks up courage and then paws at the ball or goes to intercept it, give them lots of praise to encourage this new behavior. 

Slowly, over time, you build the dog's confidence and help them to understand that games with balls are fun and that they gets lots of lovely attention for taking part. 

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By Pippa Elliott

Published: 07/23/2018, edited: 04/06/2020

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